The Inspire blog

Hey guyssss… surprise surpriseeee two posts in one day (national holiday or what??) I told you I’m taking things serious this year.

Okay so I was on TikTok a few minutes ago and I saw one of my friend’s reposts. It’s a video of this guy dancing to ophelia by Taylor Swift, doing things like folding his laundry, just vibing alone. The caption was something like: them: “you’re gonna end up alone” me: “alone 🤍”

And he looked so… peaceful? Content? Like he was genuinely enjoying his own company. Apparently it’s a whole trend.

Relatable because story of my life (literally a 1D song). I’m writing this listening to One Direction having a full karaoke session in my room.

I love being around my people. That’s clear (see: my other post, yes I posted twice, yes I’m unhinged). But alone time? I’ve always been good at that too.

Hence the one million hobbies lol. I’ve had a lot of time on my hands. (Not anymore though… grad school is coming for me.)

But I’ve been thinking…what does being comfortable alone actually do for you? Like genuinely enjoying your own company, just vibing with…yourself. Dancing in your room maybe. Taking yourself on little dates. Not needing external validation to feel okay.

I watch videos of people going on solo dates, movies alone, dinner alone, concerts alone and there’s something so powerful about it. Like they’ve figured out that they’re enough. That their own company is worth something.

Now this might sound like a contradiction to my other post where I literally said go see your friends more lol. But I actually think these two things go together. We’re not wired for isolation, we need people, we need community, we need the 9pm ice cream runs and the car karaoke with friends.

Because it’s in the alone moments that you actually figure out who you are. What you like. What makes you laugh when nobody’s watching. What songs you sing at full volume when it’s just you. That’s where you build yourself. Discover yourself. Learn yourself.

So yeah. This year I’m doing both. More solo dates. More self-karaoke. More being okay with just me. AND more showing up for my people, more spontaneous hangs, more putting the phone down and being present.

Balance, I guess? Or at least I’m trying.

Anyway. If you need me, One Direction just ended and Charlie Puth is up. I’m only one call away… literally the song is playing lol.